Pregnant and Hoping for a…

Pregnant and Hoping for a…

By Melanie Monroe Rosen

As the mom of two boys (ages 3 and 5) who is pregnant with my third (and final) baby, virtual strangers feel pretty free to ask me if I’m hoping for a girl this time around. And honestly, my answer is, um, yes. We’ll go for the 20-week anatomy scan in just over a week from now, and while having a healthy baby is obviously what is most important, having a healthy baby girl sure would be nice this time around.

Of course I’m crazy about my sons, and I‘m delighted to be their mom. I love that our house isn’t overtaken by pink plastic crap (instead it’s blue plastic crap, which goes vastly better with our decor, thankyouverymuch) and that I don’t constantly stumble over Barbie accessories in the middle of the night on my way to the bathroom for the umpteenth time (instead it’s LEGO pieces—and actually, maybe I take that one back—those things are murder on bare feet!). And I know that if I can’t raise a strong young woman of my own, my job is to raise young men who know to treat women with respect—and who always remember to put the toilet seat back down.

All joking aside though, if I’m honest, although I know I’ll be just fine as the mom of three sons (and like my son’s preschool teacher says, “You get what you get, and you don’t get upset”—which is a good reminder to me during the ultrasound next week, lest—like last time—I punch my husband when they announce the sex), I would really love a daughter. Yes, OK, it’s partially just for the clothes—but it’s also for that awesome mother-daughter bond I see my friends share with their daughters, like the one I shared with my mom, who passed away from breast cancer three years ago. There’s just nothing like that connection.

For the time being, I’m just assuming we’re having another boy, as there have only been boys born into my husband’s family for the past several generations. Well, that and just dreamily loading up my online shopping carts with girlie-everything in case I can click “Buy” following the ultrasound next week…

Did you ever really hope for one sex or the other? For a first baby or only for subsequent ones?

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MelanieMelanie Monroe Rosen is a Brooklyn-based freelance writer and mom of two boys, ages 3 and 5, who is currently expecting her third (and very much final) baby in early 2013. A former senior editor at, Melanie was surprised to discover that all of her experience breastfeeding, homebirthing, babywearing, co-sleeping, and cloth diapering actually counted as professional experience. She’s a big fan of reading both Scandinavian mystery novels (to herself) and favorite chapter books from her childhood, like those by Roald Dahl (to her kids).