Tell Your Mom This on Mother’s Day

One of the most unexpectedly lovely surprises of becoming a mom has been discovering that when it comes to being a mom, my mom will be right…about mostly everything.

She was right about the fact that missed nap times are not a sign of a near apocalypse. She was right about my toddler being almost ready for potty training when she started ripping her diaper off. And she was right about the idea of “being fatigued” as being relative in motherhood. She’s been right about a lot of things, but I realized in thinking about my own second Mother’s Day, I hardly ever tell her that.

I don’t tell her she’s usually right and some other things that I plan to tell her this Mother’s Day. I’m sure you probably have some things you haven’t told your mom, right?  Yeah? Well, along with the trips to the spa and homemade cards, how about we all make a pact to tell our mom some of these things this Mother’s Day to make her day that more special.

“I’ll make dinner.” Though she may have her cookbook wedge in between some cereal boxes in her pantry, your mom is not Betty Crocker. In the course of being your mom, she has probably endured a lot of insults, like request for pizza over her slaved over chicken pot pie. So on this Mother’s Day do something original and suggest that you make dinner. Trust me. She’ll love this.

 “I love you, mom.” All moms want and need to hear “I love you” from their children and spouses. Moms are, perhaps, the most unappreciated human beings on earth, so when you can, do say “I love you.” Even if she “knows” it already, she still will want to hear it again.

 “You’re a good mom.” Being a mom is tough. It’s most tough because moms hardly ever receive the kinds of verbal affirmations that they so desperately need to feel appreciated and that all their efforts, their sleepless nights are somehow being valued by those on the receiving end.

 “How can I help you today?” Moms hardly ask for help, often, because they are so used to doing things on their own. But all moms need help. If your mom doesn’t accept your offer of help the first time around, try, try, and try again.

“Thank you for all you’ve done.” More than a fancy watch or massage, the thing that all moms want to hear is thank you. Thank you for being my mom. Thank you for your sacrifices. Thank you for the nights you didn’t sleep to help me through illnesses. Thank you for being you.

Say any of these things and I promise that your mom will love you forever, I mean, not that she didn’t already. But she’ll be very happy. She’ll likely cry and smile and say “thank you.” And unlike the “thank you” she said in response to the peppermint-mango bath set you gave her for her birthday, this time she’ll really mean it.

Moms: What are some things that you’d like to hear from your loved ones this Mother’s Day?