I’m writing this post in hopes that it will help at least one other person out there. Potty training is not my most favorite experience as a mom, and I actually had it pretty easy compared to other stories I’ve heard. If you and your toddler are struggling with potty training, consider my ‘method’ – the lazy mom’s method.
The Lazy Mom’s Method of Potty Training
I call this method the ‘lazy mom’s method’ because that’s exactly how I felt when implementing it. For a little background, I swore my son was going to be the very last kid on the earth to be potty trained. He was incredibly stubborn – and not only showed no interest, but displayed negative behavior when we’d talk about the potty! I bought a small potty chair that sat in our bathroom for 18 solid months before he was ready to sit on it. When asked if he’d like to try ‘going’ on the potty, he’d scream “No!!!” and tell me how much he likes to wear diapers.
A typical conversation for us:
“Hey, bud, you know diapers are for babies, and big boys go pee on the potty?”
“Oh, no, Mom. Some big boys wear diapers too.”
I tried incentives. I tried bribery. I tried forcing. He watched my husband go, and his friends, and it did nothing for him. I think you already know how that went. So, I got frustrated. I watched nearly every toddler I know successfully be potty trained. Would it ever be our turn?
I’d ask every few weeks if he wanted to try to ‘go’ on the potty and he always said no. I’d push back just a bit, but when he got upset I’d simply let it go and try again in another week or so.
So, after months and months of asking, and months of months of saying no, I was *this close* to investing in special order sized diapers. I asked him if he wanted to sit on the potty – imagine my surprise when he said “Yes!”
He was ready. Somehow, and I have no idea how, my son decided he was ready to go pee on the potty. I quickly busted out a sticker chart (which we had previously discussed ad nauseam) and got to work. I hope this doesn’t come across as bragging, but I can count the number of accidents he’s had since that day on one hand alone.
The moral of my story – wait. Wait until your child is ready and the process will be so much easier. He practically trained himself because he had decided he was ready to pee (and poop!!) on the potty. I did not push him, so he had nothing to resist. The frustrating part of this experience is that I wanted him to be potty trained six months earlier, if not more. But I needed to wait until he was ready, and it hasn’t been stressful at all.
If you are, too, struggling when is the right time to potty train your toddler, don’t fret. They’ll let you know when they’re ready. I never understood that, but now I do.