I used to think I was “busy.” Then I became responsible for two other little humans who can’t seem to do anything on their own (well, three other humans, if you count the husband, which I totally do). Before kids, no matter how busy I got with my day-to-day activities, I always had hobbies and certain tasks I made sure to keep in my routine. Now that I’m a busy mom of 2 (I can only imagine how mothers with more children feel), here’s a list of some things I don’t have time to give a crap about anymore:
- Trivial housework chores like dusting and wiping baseboards. Those things probably won’t be cleaned again until my kids are old enough to do it as part of earning their allowance.
- Celebrities. Oh, you have to lower the asking price on your amazingly huge mansion because no one is buying? Poor you. Oh, you totaled your fancy car in a DUI? Should’ve given me the car and booked yourself an Uber!
- Searching for a new, good book. Or just reading a book in general. If I’m sitting down to read a book, it’s because I’m neglecting a million other, more boring responsibilities.
- Personal hygiene. Okay, before you start judging me as the stinky kid in class, let me explain that I DO still keep myself clean. But before kids, I used to shower at least every other day, and would often take quick, in-between showers to clean off the stinky parts of the body (under-boob and crotch sweat are no joke, people). Since kids, I’m lucky if I remember to brush my teeth in the morning after getting the kids ready for the day. And as far as showers go, I always yearn for a one but convince myself I’ll do it when the husband gets home so I can shave my pits in peace. However, most days, by the time he is home, everyone has had dinner, and I can pass the kids off to him, I’m just too eager to sleep, promising I’ll shower in the morning. And the vicious cycle continues.
- Painting my nails. Before having my first baby, I discovered nail marbling. Your nails turn out awesome but the process is long and requires laying out a lot of components that little toddlers would love to get their hands on. To avoid a mess, I gave it up. It’s not like my nails stay looking nice for long now, anyways.
- Staying up late. Sleep is precious after having kids. You trade the promise of sleeping in for sex, for chocolate, for anything, really. Staying up late and willingly throwing away a few more coveted hours of sleep is crazy-talk. When your toddler comes rushing into your bed at 6:00 AM, you instantly regret your previous night’s decision.
- Car maintenance. I know, I know. It’s important to maintain and care for your car so it lasts longer blah blah blah. When I have to drag along my potty-training toddler and my baby who still breastfeeds every few hours, even a “quick” oil change becomes my personal form of hell.
- Doctor check-up visits. Not the kids’ doctor visits! Of course not! I’d be hung out to dry by Judgy McSoccerMom if I even thought to postpone those at all. No, I’m talking about my own check ups. When was the last time I went to the eye doctor? The dentist? Refer back to the previous bullet point.
- Being on time. Yeah, I’m still embarrassed a socially acceptable amount to TRY not to be late to things. But especially since having my second child, I just don’t give a crap about being on time when I’ve tried my best and we’re still running behind. I care marginally more if the event is an important one.
- Judging other moms. “Well, when I have kids…” Oh how that phrase makes me mad now. Until you have children of your own, YOU DON’T KNOW what you’ll do or how you’ll react. I’d really like to go back to pre-baby me and punch myself in the face.
Becoming a mother doesn’t mean you have to give up everything you once loved to do, and it certainly doesn’t give you the right to let yourself go and be gross (again, I do still pay attention to my personal hygiene, I promise!) But there’s no denying that motherhood means giving up almost all your time to care for those little human beings you love so much. Some of the things I don’t give a crap about anymore are trivial and I’m probably better off for not caring, while others I’m working on to get better at. This whole parenting thing works best if I take it one day at a time!
Now that you’re a mom, what are some things you don’t have time to give a crap about anymore? Tell us in the comments!