What Makes French Moms Superior To Us?

By now you probably have heard about the latest parenting book to create a stir. It is called “Bringing Up Bebe: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting“. The book was written by American journalist Pamela Druckerman. She was driven to write the book after raising three children in Paris with her British husband.

I have not read the book (I intend to) but have read an excerpt and several reviews. It seems that there is a growing literary genre of “Why foreigners make better parents than Americans”. Anyone remember the brouhaha over the Tiger Mom? Amy Chua, now known as Tiger Mom, wrote a controversial book about the strict parenting styles of the Chinese and how this style has helped create “stereotypically successful” kids. What is it about the parenting styles of non American moms that we find fascinating?

The trend wouldn’t irk me if the underlying message was not always hinting at the inferiority of American mothers. Druckerman asserts that the French style of parenting is superior because they do not allow their children to run their lives. French mothers do not lose their sense of self when they give birth the way American mothers tend to. How accurate is her depiction? Are French moms really better than us?

Druckerman points out that the French children she encountered slept through the night, have sophisticated palettes, and can sit in restaurants contently while their parents enjoy their meals. I’ve got two out of three and I am an American. I can’t possibly be alone. Maybe Druckerman is comparing two vastly different kinds of families to each other? Her sample size is small. It is difficult to make sweeping generalizations about parenting techniques based on geographical location and she might have missed the mark.

I can’t wait to read this book. While I will never be the French kind of mom Druckerman depicts (not judging but I have zero interest in leaving my kids to cry at a young age, not playing with my kids at the playground, or spanking) I stand to lose nothing from learning about different standards of parenting from around the world. This world is becoming more flat and diversity is a great thing. Perhaps by understanding what some of our foreign friends are up to we can learn a trick or two. My daughter is an amazing eater but I wouldn’t mind it if my son would try a piece of shrimp here and there.

Will you give this book a try?